So I’ve been a mother of two for 5 weeks now. Somehow it feels like both less and more time than that. It seems like Little A. (aka, Little Brother) has been here forever, but at the same time, I can’t believe he’s over a month old. Little J. (aka Big Brother) has been adjusting well for the most part. We’ve had a little push-back from him over the past week or two, but I’m sure part of that is also the fact that he’s two and a half, and he’s really good at being two and a half. Plus we’re still dealing with his language delay, so he does get frustrated sometimes when he wants something but he can’t tell us what he wants. So there are many factors that are playing into a slight increase in brattiness from him.
As far as my adjustment…the first couple weeks were rough, and I had to let many things slide–including this website. The house was rarely cleaned up to my standards, laundry piled up, there were always dishes in the sink. I was tired and hormonal. If my husband hadn’t been home with me for those two weeks, I would have been a complete mess. The first time I tried to take both boys out, they each had multiple meltdowns that resulted in all three of us crying on the kitchen floor. But since then, I’ve been able to get out with them a bunch of times.
We’ve had all sorts of playdates, run errands and just been out in the world. I’d like to say I’m getting the hang of having two, but I know the second I say that, things will change again and become super hard all over again. So let’s say, I’m starting to get the hang of things.
I think the key to handling multiple kids is a combination of being organized and going with the flow. When I know I’ll be out in the morning, I try to pack the diaper bag and prep some snacks the night before, so that I don’t have to worry about that in the morning. Then it’s just a matter of getting all of us fed and dressed. The fed part tends to be the hardest part because sometimes my little nursling doesn’t want to let go long enough for me to get myself and Little J. fed and clothed. Since infants and toddlers have a habit of being so selfish and inflexible, that means I have to be the flexible one. So when I know we have things the next day, I’ll prep as much as I can the night before, but the morning of, I have to recognize that kids will be kids and we may or not be on time.
I still have to let things slide around the house. I’m dying to mop my floors and I wish I could make healthy dinners every night, but sometimes there just isn’t enough time for all the things we want to do. I also want to be more consistent with having both boys in cloth diapers, but since I’m just starting to get the hang of things, I really don’t want to bite off more than I can chew. So we do everything part time, and that just needs to be good enough.